I have a problem with “Her”. She doesn’t listen to me.
Maybe, the problem is that it’s hard for me to keep my mouth shut when it comes to XC skiing. I’m kind if a technical nerd from teaching cross-country skiing for 20+ years. Even though I haven’t taught skiing for the last 10 years my head is still full of knowledge, and I will admit that I may be Full of It, but She still needs to listen!
But let’s look at the fact that husband and wives rarely like to listen to criticisms from the other… which reminds me of a story:
I was teaching a lesson during Christmas week in a little teaching area behind Telemark Lodge in Cable, Wisconsin. The area was also the trail-head for the cross-country trail network. A husband and wife duo was just beginning a ski. From the look of it, he was the experienced one (full-of-it) and she was a first timer. He was barking “do this, do that” instructions and she was struggling. I just shook my head and continued on with my lesson. Thirty minutes later she was walking back in tears, skis in hand, and him at her heels saying “you should have done this, you should have done that.”
Remembering that story, I’ve finally come to my senses and scaled back what I want to say to my Her, and tell her very little – only when Her is in the best of moods, and only very subliminally so Her doesn’t realize that I’m talking about skiing. Things like “Naps are good” when she’s tired because She skied too hard for two days in a row with her heart rate through the roof!
There is so much more to say, but I can’t… But, since it would give me great gratification to give her my wealth of knowledge of survival Birke tips, I’ve decided to give them here – without her knowing! Things like:
- Rest days are good. Ski slow and easy after a hard day.
- Don’t V1 all the time! Practice the V2 and V2-Alternate for flats and gentle downhills.
- The groomed tracks can be faster then skating. Get in the tracks on declines and get some rest.
- Don’t ski the hilly Spring Gulch trails everyday. Ski something easy the next day.
- and Bla, Bla, and so-forth.
Now, if I would only listen to myself.